Miscarriages are never an easy thing for a woman to have to go through. However, some moms find that opening up about their losses is what helps them cope, which is exactly what one mom did when she lost her daughter at just 20 weeks old. Now, she’s sharing her story in the hopes that she’ll be able to inspire other moms to open up about their losses.
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Pregnant. Alyssa Young and her partner Justin were thrilled when they discovered that Alyssa was pregnant. The couple had gotten married young and they were eager to start a family. However, Alyssa suffers from several health conditions that put her at risk for complications during pregnancy.
Starting a family. ”We knew immediately that we were in love and wanted to spend forever together. Almost right away we talked about getting married and having children of our own. Yes, we were young, but we knew what we wanted,” Young told Little Things.
Happy. So the couple began trying and pretty soon, Young discovered she was pregnant. Young was so happy when the pregnancy test came out positive that she burst into tears. The soon-to-be parents found out they were having a baby girl, who they named Scarlett. Young also started going to routine ultrasounds and kept track with the progress of her baby.
Pride and joy. “On September 28th I had routine ultrasound. Scarlett was perfect. Weighing in at 14 ounces and heart rate of 131, she was so chunky and so perfect. I was 19 weeks 6 days and she was just my pride and joy,” said Young, as reported by Little Things.
Something was wrong. While she was thrilled to see her daughter growing, she couldn’t help feeling like something was wrong. She was also experiencing a little bit of pain, which worried her. Initially, she assumed the pain was just a symptom of her pregnancy, but as the pains got worse, she decided to call her doctor.
Doctor. ”Every doctor I had talked to so far didn’t seem worried, so I had trusted in them. I knew everything was going to be fine. I prayed everything would be. I prayed harder than I ever have in my entire life,” says Young, as reported by Little Things. Young also ended up going to her local hospital because of some bleeding, but doctors checked on little Scarlett and found she was still healthy.
Miscarriage. The day after Young had been sent home from the hospital, Young continued experiencing pain and was rushed to the hospital. There, she was told that her body was trying to miscarry the baby, but doctors were trying to do whatever they could to save baby Scarlett. After doing several exams, Scarlett was still found to be in good health.
Dialted. Doctors explained that Young was suffering from Incompetent Cervix, and she was starting to dilate. She was immediately put on several medications so that her body couldn’t dilate any further. Unfortunately, the medications weren’t enough, and the second day in the hospital, Young was already dilated five centimeters.
Miscarriage. “I don’t really remember what time they came in to check on me, but I know it was early. The ultrasound showed I was dilated to 5 centimeters and Scarlett was basically on her way to meet us…I felt like I had failed. I felt like I failed him and our daughter. All I could spit out was ‘I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.’ I must have repeated that a dozen times,” says Young, as reported by Little Things.
Relatives. Realizing that her daughter was likely not going to survive the birth, Young and her partner began calling all their relatives to come to the hospital so they’d have a chance to meet Scarlett before having to say goodbye to her. Eventually, Scarlett was born at 20 weeks and five days.
Helpless. “As I held her, she gasped for breath. I told her that I was so sorry. I told her I loved her. I told her it was okay to let go. Seeing your child dying and knowing that there is nothing you can do to save them, it’s a terrible feeling. You’re helpless. Everyone took their turns and held her. Everyone got to love her. That’s all she ever experienced was love,” said Young, as reported by Little Things.
Goodbye. Scarlett was held by every member of her family for the two hours that she survived. All of Young’s friends and family took as many photos as they could and said goodbye to the baby. It was tough for Young to have to come to terms with the reality of losing her daughter, but she says opening up about it has helped her cope.
Raising awareness. Now, Young says she hopes other moms will have the courage to speak out about their miscarriages or stillbirths. She also wants to raise awareness about cervical incompetence so that women can be screened and diagnosed. before its too late.
Support. The Youngs also created a support page on Facebook called Scarlett’s Sanctuary, where other moms can post about their experiences, and where Young posts encouraging statuses for other moms who may be in a similar situation.
You. Have you ever been in a similar situation? How did you cope with it? Do you think that opening up about your sadness for you personally has been a helpful way to overcome sadness? Be sure to share your experience with us with us in the comments section below.
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