A woman Melanie Hawkes has spoken up about why she chose to lose her v*rginity at the age of 43 by using a male escort.
There can be various reasons why intimacy does not necessarily begin early for certain people, whether it is due to religious views or simply not finding the perfect person until later in life.
And the world of s*x and romance can be much more challenging for persons with significant disabilities.
Melanie Hawkes, 43, of Perth, Australia, told about her decision to utilize a male escort to lose her v*rginity after a childhood ailment left her wheelchair-bound at age three.
Melanie was only two years old when she was diagnosed with transverse myelitis, an illness characterized by infection-induced inflammation of the spinal cord.
Her parents rushed her to the hospital after she went from walking and talking like any other toddler to stumbling around like she was “drunk” before being paralyzed in her legs and having only minimal movement in her arms.
While some children recover completely from transverse myelitis, Melanie Hawkes was not one of them. She has needed a wheelchair since the age of three, and she also has intermittent pain and breathing problems, necessitating the assistance of support staff.
While some children recover completely from transverse myelitis, Melanie Hawkes was not one of them. She has needed a wheelchair since the age of three, and she also has intermittent pain and breathing problems, necessitating the assistance of support staff.
Melanie Hawkes claimed that she had never had a s*xual experience until she was in her forties because the only time s*x was discussed in her family was when her parents warned her boys not to get a lady pregnant before marriage.
She said us that they didn’t bring it up with her because “it wasn’t like I could sneak out, so they weren’t worried about me.”
Melanie added: “I’d liked a guy in uni, but after he was teased about having feelings for me, he kept his distance. After that, I assumed my dream of having a partner someday wouldn’t happen, so I busied myself with work and other commitments.”
On the other hand, Melanie Hawkes acquired Covid in 2022, had problems breathing, and was “sure” she was about to die from the virus.
Melanie Hawkes
Tracy (name changed) volunteered to give her a massage one day when she noticed her neck was hurting from having to sleep upright to aid with her breathing at night.
Despite the fact that it was only a neck and back massage, Melanie realized it was the “first time [she’d] been touched so intimately by anyone.”
Tracy had divulged to Melanie that s*x workers specializing in disabled clientele existed, adding that she had previously worked as one herself.
Melanie Hawkes began looking for a suitable escort – which cost around $400 AUD ($270 USD) an hour – after her Covid fright made her realize that “life was too short.” She came across one named Chayse, who she liked the look of.
She messaged Chayse and got a call from him 10 minutes later, which put her at ease and allowed her to communicate what she wanted from him.
Melanie had scheduled a two-hour erotic massage with Chayse for a month but changed her mind because she was “too eager to wait.”
Melanie Hawkes requested Tracy to drive her to Chayse’s house, where she helped her dress in seductive knickers she’d purchased online for the occasion and helped her onto the massage table before leaving the pair to it.
Afterward, she arranged another session at her own home, telling the publication: “Two weeks later, we met again at my house, as it was better equipped for my needs. We were together for three exhilarating hours and the next morning my whole body was aching.
“Chayse had bent me into so many different positions, but they’d all felt so good at the time.
“Now, I’m seeing Chayse regularly. He’s opened me up to a world I’d been missing for so long, and I’m loving every minute.”
Melanie Hawkes explained that she utilizes her meetings with Chayse to figure out what she likes and dislikes in the bedroom in the hopes of finding a life mate, something she had never done before.
She explained: “I know some people will judge me, but that’s easy if you don’t have a disability. You don’t know what it’s like. People who matter to me are supportive and this is the happiest I’ve ever been.
“My only regret is not doing it sooner. I’m speaking out now, so people with disabilities know there are options for intimacy.”
Melanie concluded: “We deserve to feel loved and desired, like anyone else.”
